Archives For November 30, 1999

ImageFor all the great opportunities that have come out of the traditional ways people “NETWORK”, It is my purpose to share with the Rockwell Collins African American Professionals Forum Network a NEW perspective on the essence of why and how they go about creating critical connections using my 3C-Technique Methodology.

It’s going to be awesome. I’m excited and I’m expecting! Expectations Folks! Expectations!

How many times have you attended or participated in a networking | social event and exchanged business cards, had general conversation with a person(s), heck you’ve even been invited to or asked to participate in some of their events, etc.? You really thought you’d made a connection, maybe not “critical”, at least a decent one.

Now it’s your turn — you’re sharing with your connections the great news about what’s happening in your business, or at work, you’re asking them to participate in other opportunities to connect and grow, and what do you know? Now they want to be “un-connected”.

I’m going to make a strong statement right here — If you don’t want to “really connect” with folks, because your original intention for connecting was selfish to begin with, then don’t go through the motions. Save your energy and reflect on your original intention for why you are connecting to people. I can assure you you’ll have another chance to meet again, and maybe even on a bigger platform. So to answer the question that relates to this particular instance, NOT to Connect. Save your business cards.

This weekend, atncabs I relaxed in the mountains of Tennessee, I made several critical connections I wasn’t expecting to make. When you least expect it, relationships form, similar interests emerge and bang! – You’ve got yourself a critical connection. Now while most of the people on my trip to the mountains where of an older generation, I wondered if millennials could grasp the concept of hard core in your face relational contact while sequestered for an entire weekend. Funny thing is that all of us “older generation” folks were just vying to get on our smart phones, internet, tweet, Facebook, etc. – it was really funny and exciting to watch. Needless to say, I don’t believe that my friends knew I was scoping them out…because it wasn’t my intention. Though there is clearly gaps between the generations when it comes to building relationships and making critical connections and using technology to stay in touch, it’s a beautiful thing to appreciate that we’re not that different.

Cultivate Critical Connections: A Guide for Creating Genuine Relationships is designed for college bound students and young adults who are at the start of building authentic relationships. I teach my readers how to nurture, evaluate, and sustain their connections in an easy to recall process called the 3C-Technique. I explain that their personal and professional growth depends on their original intention for developing relationships and that the benefits of those critical relationships can be the springboard to meaningful opportunities

At some point in our lives, we realize that we are who we are because of the critical connections we’ve made. When we take the time to create genuine connections, what we’re saying is that we value the people we are connecting with. The 3C-Technique approach– is simple and goes like this:

  • If we take the time to master how we cultivate relationships,
  • examine the fine details of what’s critical (authentic) in our relationships,
  • and then commit to the effort of keeping those connections intact, we can change the trajectory of our lives.